When you begin on the path to embodying your Highest Self, you will soon meet others on your path that are there to guide you into living in a higher frequency. You will begin to meet new, like-minded souls and your current relationships will evolve. This is not necessarily an easy journey.
I have personally found that as I move deeper into my truth, I encounter more conflict, as the people who are around me and environments I am in are often out of alignment with my Highest Self. My first reaction is often to blame the other person for not operating out of their Highest Self. However, this approach is flawed in many ways, and generally stems from an egocentric place on my part. In my relationships it has been far more healing and practical to view each out of alignment experience as a learning opportunity to move into deeper union with my Highest Self. These learning opportunities are often difficult and full of emotion and resistance or fear that I have been holding onto for a long time.
Limitations exist only on our minds. At times it may feel like there is a negative limitation within yourself or within another that is causing inner and or outer conflict. But these negative limitations only exist in our minds. As we rise into our Highest Self, creating and practicing loving boundaries is one of the most effective ways to rise above the illusion of negative limitation. The foundation of loving boundaries are positive limitations. A boundary is a line that marks the limits of an area; a dividing line, or limitation that you create. It is first created in your mind and only takes a few moments to put into place. You can choose to make a positive limitation to create loving boundaries in every single moment. Every moment, you can commit and recommit to loving boundaries. There are two types of boundaries that when practiced with love assist you in rising into your Highest Self:
Loving Intrapersonal Boundaries
Intrapersonal boundaries occur within your mind. You put positive limits on the thoughts that you allow yourself to think. This practice, along with mindfulness meditation, has been life changing for me! Here are the three I am practicing now:
1. I think loving thoughts about myself and others and act with love, and I become a living loving spirit embodied.
2. I create priorities that reflect the desires of my Highest Self.
3. I commit to daily loving routines that honor those priorities.
Loving Interpersonal Boundaries
Interpersonal boundaries relate to relationships or communication between people. Interpersonal boundaries are limits that a person creates to identify for themselves what are reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave around him or her and how they will respond when someone steps outside those limits. It took me almost my entire life to realize that I could have boundaries and walk away from people who did not treat me with love or respect. It is SO empowering to know that I can change my entire experience in life by creating loving boundaries. Here are the two I am currently practicing:
1. I deserve to be treated with love and respect. I walk away when I am not shown love and respect.
2. I speak up with love when myself or another is not honored with love and respect.
3. All that is not love is a call for love. I treat every person, animal and plant with love. I choose love when presented with hate or fear.
I used to think I needed to be stronger or smarter to create boundaries so that others would respect me. I used to think that I attracted people into my life that treated me without love and respect and I deserved to be treated poorly, because I didn’t treat myself with that love and respect. I also thought that there was no way I could expect everyone to treat me with love and respect, because I wouldn’t be able to work in the world. I didn’t think it was rational to live in a world where I was loved and respected all the time.
That mindset really didn’t serve me. I was not creating strong positive intentions and I had no idea how to create a boundary. Knowing now, how to create loving boundaries, is so much more empowering for me every single day! Also, the more positive limitations I have created and then redrawn and redrawn over and over as many times as I needed to, the more I notice that I am attracting more relationships in which I am treated with the love and respect that I deserve. I also find walking away freeing, and now that I have created this positive limitation, I am far less likely to absorb the energy of others who are choosing to inhabit low vibrational spaces.
I have created some daily affirmations to help you as you move through your day practicing positive limitations as you living inside of your amazing life full of love and respect. Remember, you have the ultimate power to create a life that is full of love and respect. I am here practicing in spirit with you, because I know for me, this boundary setting is the work of a lifetime.