‘Empaths are highly sensitive, finely tuned instruments when it comes to emotions. They feel everything, sometimes to an extreme, and are less apt to intellectualize feelings. Intuition is the filter through which they experience the world. Empaths are naturally giving, spiritually attuned, and good listeners. If you want heart, empaths have got it. Through thick and thin, they’re there for you, world-class nurturers.
The trademark of empaths is that they know where you’re coming from. Some can do this without taking on people’s feelings. However, for better or worse, others, like myself and many of my patients, can become angst-sucking sponges. This often overrides the sublime capacity to absorb positive emotions and all that is beautiful. If empaths are around peace and love, their bodies assimilate these and flourish. Negativity, though, often feels assaultive, exhausting. Thus, they’re particularly easy marks for emotional vampires, whose fear or rage can ravage empaths. As a subconscious defense, they may gain weight as a buffer. When thin, they’re more vulnerable to negativity… Plus, an empath’s sensitivity can be overwhelming in romantic relationships; many stay single since they haven’t learned to negotiate their special cohabitation needs with a partner.
When empaths absorb the impact of stressful emotions, it can trigger panic attacks, depression, food, sex and drug binges, and a plethora of physical symptoms that defy traditional medical diagnosis from fatigue to agorophobia. Since I’m an empath, I want to help all my empath-patients cultivate this capacity and be comfortable with it.
Empathy doesn’t have to make you feel too much all the time. Empathy continues to make me freer, igniting my compassion, vitality, and sense of the miraculous.’
As empaths we have a have both a gift and responsibility. It is for me the seed of so much beauty and greatness in my life. However, I also, like a sponge, absorb and attract what negativity exists around me. I realize this drained my power and ability to get things done. I have given my power away to others, especially in my closest relationships. It was because I could feel what they felt, and I would always try to give to fill them up. This frequently resulted in out of balance relationships, where I felt exhausted from giving. Here is the central truths that I now live by as a result of my journey so far as an empath 🙂
Meditate on Love to Stay in Your Center of Truth
Anytime you act or react in a way that is not from a centered place of loving truth, you are giving the other person in the relationship the opportunity to take advantage of your energy.
The ego intuitively tunes into and responds to the energy of the other. When you are unaware of your ego as the personality of your supreme essence, you can react to others easily. Practice residing in communion with your supreme essence, through meditation, you will more easily respond from a centered place of loving internal power when in relationship with another. A lifelong practice of meditation prepares you to think and act from your supreme essence, your centered place of loving internal power. When in the center of loving truth, you witness your thoughts and actions as an impartial observer. From this place you can operate your life from loving power, rather then react to energy of the moment.
Meditating as a spiritual practice strengthens my connection with this loving power. A guide may be a book, I love meditating with A Course In Miracles, the Bible, the Lotus Sutra, and most recently, the Bhagavad-gita. Each of these texts can come alive as a guide if you give it that space in your life.
A spacious mind is free of thought, until it tunes-in, then all thought serves the highest purpose of what it is focusing on. Your conscious mind is meant to be the receiver and transmitter of energy from Spirit. To receive and transmit spiritual love, meditate to clear your mind so that you can stay centered in the loving, positive encouraging voice of Spirit.
My goal is that all action throughout my entire day is spent in service to my highest self and center of truth, which is the awareness that only love is real. The most powerful practice for me has been mindful meditation. The goal is to spend each minute being present with and witnessing my ego through the eyes of spirit.
Don’t Try to Figure Negativity Out
When we enter into a battle between ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ no one wins, instead negative attacks often ensue. When the ego is operating unconsciously, you or the other convinces the self that everything being done is ‘right’, because the ego is holding on to a theory or practice that strengthens itself. The birthplace of a negative mind is when the ego strengthens itself by affirming it’s ‘righteousness’ in this way. Don’t try to figure out negativity, or reason with blame, guilt or shame. If you find yourself in this place, disconnect immediately.
Spending too much time dwelling on negativity or trying to reason with another’s ego or defend your ego takes energy. Spend your energy wisely and focused on your true purpose; to reach unity in consciousness with your highest self.
When we are emotionally connected, as empaths, it is in our nature to get closer to help and to share our light. However, negativity is very sticky. We are drawn into the dialogue of the ego and getting closer, you can easily find yourself embroiled in the same problem you were trying to help with. This is because a central tendency of the ego when it is low is to project, manipulate or attack. When you find yourself in witness to the ego projecting negative stories, trying to manipulate through employing tactics of blame, shame or guilt, or attacking, just make a note of it. If action is required, first, honor the light. Disconnect from the negativity, don’t engage. Repeat daily:
My first obligation is to be one with my highest self, my supreme essence! Then, I connect, serve and create!
If you do find yourself stuck in the mud with another, practice forgiveness and return to your practice!
Practice Protection & Gratitude For Powerful Emotions
Your emotions are guideposts in your life pointing helping you to see where you are stuck in the human experience, where your deepest hurts are. The deepest emotions in your present are always linked to deep emotional experiences from your past. When you are not in your center of truth when relating to another with powerful emotions, as an empath you may feel sick or depleted. So how can you be around others without picking up on their energy?
What you visualize you will become!! I practice a simple visualization of surrounding myself with a golden orb, then rooting into the ground. This helps me to stay in my center and so that I don’t pick up on the energy of others. I also surround myself at home, and whenever I leave the house, I bring with me Tibetan Quartz. Tibetan Quartz is some of the most centering, protective crystal medicine I have ever felt. I always feel warm and protected when I have a piece with me.
When we have allowed ourselves to become too emotionally attached or when someone else has become too emotionally attached to us, our emotions can be our greatest weapon in bringing balance back in. When you get fed up, angry, sick, hurt or depleted, the lesson is to remember that this emotion is actually here to help you move into alignment with your supreme essence, your highest self.
Meditate on Gratitude! As empaths our feelings and emotions are here to guide us closer to the light and into an experience of heaven on earth. We must first embrace our emotions as the teachers they are, then allow them to guide our actions. Do not allow your ego to spend unstructured time thinking about a negative situation or relationship unless you are with this person, or in a quiet meditative space praying about them.
Make time every day to process the negative experiences and people in your life. Practice detaching from the thoughts by simply letting them go and refocusing on what you need to be doing.
This will take time and patience, but it is a powerful way to stay centered in your power. Be kind with yourself and just gently remind yourself every time you find your ego reflecting on negativity, past hurt or attack, immediately let go of the thought, stop repeating the story in your head, save it for your special time and surround yourself in light!
Light, Light and More Light!!
FLOOD yourself with light every moment of every day. When I say light, I mean every kind of light! Physical light, mental and emotional experiences full of light & spiritual light. Pray daily that your angels will lift you up, sing your favorite songs that inspire confidence and strength, breathe fresh air, surround yourself with spirit every moment of every day…
Bring light into your home, clear out all dark corners, bring in fresh flowers, running water, plants and life! Life is full of light, and regenerates your physical space. The more you surround yourself with those things that are alive, the more protected and nurtured you will feel!
You may have to repeat this practice dozens of times or more. This is a practice that requires repetition daily to be effective. The more you practice disconnecting form the voice of your ego and filling your mind and time and space with light, the easier it will be to access the light in every aspect of your life.
Think of your energy field the same way you think of your body. When you are exercising everyday, your body is healthy and strong. If you had been physically injured and had a wound, you would have to care for it every day. You would have to be careful not to injure it the same way you did in the past and you would take special care not to do anything that would open the wound again. You would nurture yourself until you were better. When you practice energy healing, meditation, yoga, dance or another practice that brings light into your body everyday, your energy field is healthy and strong. When your energy field has been wounded or depleted from relationship with another, you must care for it the same way. If you are in a negative place mentally, if you allow yourself to think thoughts connected to the past that were negative, or spend too much time around others dwelling in negativity, you will reopen the wound.
The only way others can overpower us or hurt us energetically is if we are low energetically.
When our spirits are high and full of light, from daily practice, we become protected by this light.
Energy Healing Attunements
Personally, I have found that energy healing daily, especially before I go to bed at night, clears many low vibrating energies that I don’t even realize are there.
In addition to a regular energy healing practice, I have had amazing energetic shifts in frequency and a greater sense of spiritual protection from receiving energy attunements. Essentially, an energy attunement is an attunement to a frequency of energy that is sacred. Attunements infuse your energy field with a high vibrational coded light frequency. They really helped me to remember and dwell in my essential nature as a being of light. Over time and after moving through a series of Reiki and Pleiadian Lightbody Attunements, I felt more able to reside in my center of love and light then ever before. Receiving these attunements were the most powerful experiences that I have used to move me out of low vibrating emotional states.
Snuggle Closer with Your Creator
As miracle workers, we are here to remind each other, that only God’s love is real. The other has no power except for the power that God has given, which can only be full of love and light. Therefore any other human perception of power is an illusion of this earthly plane.
Anytime we allow ourselves to feel something other than love it is because we are believing too deeply in the power of another’s ego over our connection with God. As we snuggle closer with our creator, as we ask him to enter us, to surround us, to protect us every day, we are given the opportunity to develop a deeper connection with our God and with God’s light within us. This is the ultimate protection and source of power.
However, I know that sometimes we get low and identify with our ego first. I do the same thing 🙂 When we have been brought down through a relationship with another, our lesson is to return to God’s embrace as quickly as possible. God only wants you to be surrounded in love and light at all times. There is a divine crystalline grid surrounding you and protecting you and me at all times. This grid of light supports you in every moment to surround yourself in light, love and truth. You can feel the peace, love and unity of this grid when you are alone in nature, here you are able to be one with this eternal presence of love.
As we seek to focus on the light within others, and retreat to our practices over and over, together we cultivate a strong energetic body, and it will become easier and easier to stay centered in your true power, the power of your supreme essence!